Of Prostitutes & Review

I’m not feeling so well these days. It must be the damn weather affecting me and making me feverish. Curling up with a good book these days seems to hold more appeal than anything else.

One night, while I was about to nod off, something from the telly caught my attention. A program produced by TV3 known as 999, highlighting all sort of current social issues and crimes.

I did not make it a habit to watch this program, but something caught my attention. A raid by the authorities in a brothel. They were showing pimps and prostitutes clad in skimpy clothes.

All right, at this point, you may ask me… what’s so eye-catchy about the scene? It is not those attractive, perfectly sculptured half nude young female specimens that caught my eyes, but one prostitute in particular. She was clad in nothing but the bed-sheets.

She was in her mid thirties, tanned, rather plump, and not really good looking. That’s not exactly the image of… call-girls or prostitute that I have in mind. I’m absolutely under the illusion that all prostitutes are alluring, sexy, and young.

And then the narration started. Then I found out that the prostitute in question is a widower in her late 30s. Selling her body, serving 8-10 clients per day, earning more than what I earn in a month in just one night. I gasps in shock then, and turned to my husband and asked him why men would be interested to have sex with someone like that? I would understand it if… if she’s young, and sexy, and fair…but she’s…let’s just say she’s not that attractive and yet men are paying to have sex with her.

My husband told me that he doesn’t know why people slept with her…but…a few seconds later, I realized belatedly that what I’ve asked was a very stupid question. It’s almost the same thing where young women go for old, bald, married men but with a load of cash to spare. It is not their virility they after. It is wealth and status.

It’s not quite about some hot, mind blowing sex, isn’t it? It’s about being in the illusion of being in control, getting whatever you desire and being fooled into thinking that you’re on the top of the world…escaping reality. What’s a few hundred, or even a few thousands for such feelings? It is a form of escapism.

Not everyone are lucky enough to get such feelings, and I guess, the job of a professional sex worker is to do just that. That must be why people actually paid that plump prostitute who is in her 30s for companionship instead of choosing those young, doll-like chics.

I assume…there must be competition between her and those younger, prettier, sexier looking prostitute, and to be able to earn so much, to serve so much clients… there must be something that’s she’s really good at; that there’s a lot of clients goes to her repeatedly, enabling her to earn so much in just one night. I think, it’s not just her experience in bed…. but her skills in spinning illusions.

These thoughts, the thoughts of prostitutes, and spinning of illusion and giving some sort of visions to others, reminds me of a book that I’ve read…in this book, prostitution is not only legal, but also thriving, culturally speaking, and the main character, Empress Orchid, or rather, Lady Yehonala who is the last Empress of China also visited a brothel to learn some ‘skills’ in order to prepare herself to ‘serve’ her Emperor ‘husband’.

The book is known as Empress Orchid written by Anchee Min.

The Empress Orchid is a fictionalized account of the Empress Dowager Tsu Hsi, who was the power behind the throne for the last 46 years of the Ching Dynasty in the 19th century.

Orchid was a Manchurian born into poverty, but came to the Forbidden City to be one of the emperor’s 3000 concubines after deciding that the Emperor is a better choice of a husband than her retarded cousin.

She was one of his seven wives. She was chosen to be wife no.4, and she survives the dangers and palace intrigues.

Soon, after acquiring the ‘skill’ from the brothel and charmed her Emperor husband, she become one of his favourite wives, and the only one to bear him a son, who ascend the throne at a young age upon his father’s death.

With her son as regent, Orchid struggles to lead an empire already on its final legs. Anchee Min’s novel is full of historical detail and sheds new light on an empress demonized by Chinese history. A woman who was blamed for the fallen dynasty.

The novel’s first third focuses on Orchid’s gradual climb into favor. The opulence of life in the Forbidden City is hardly to be believed, and Min’s descriptions are so lavish that the story’s pace is quite leisurely.

On Orchid’s wedding day, June 26, 1852, now known as Lady Yehonala, describes her gown as “a medley of many reds. Rich magenta spiked with yellow, wine sparked with cream, warm lavender spilling to nearly blue. The dress was constructed with eight layers of silk and was embroidered with vigorous spring flowers, real and imaginary. The fabric was woven with gold and silver threads. It bore large clusters of jade, pearls and other jewels. I had never worn anything so beautiful, or so heavy and uncomfortable.”

Such exotic attire becomes a metaphor for Orchid’s early married life, which appears ideal, but is empty and almost unbearable.

She sleeps alone, guarded by eunuchs. Court etiquette prescribes 99 dishes at each meal, yet again, Orchid usually eats by herself only after her eunuch, An-te-hai, tests the food for poison.

Delicacies, clothing, jewelry, gardens, plays all the diversions of privilege can’t engage the 18-year-old Orchid mentally, spiritually or physically. Homesick, stifled by ritual, longing to visit her family, she begins a private quest to attract the emperor’s attention and affection.

Anchee Min entwines many story lines in the novel: the rivalry with the emperor’s first wife, Nuharoo, who takes over as mother to Tung Chih, Orchid’s son, the emperor’s failing health and increasing reliance on Orchid; power struggles among Chinese officials; and attacks by European forces, which drive the emperor into exile until his death in 1861.

At 26, the widow Orchid becomes Empress Dowager, but she is almost assassinated on her journey to return the emperor’s body to the Forbidden City. This segment of the book is the most rushed. Anchee Min’s efforts to do justice to both imaginative fiction and accurate history become strained. A huge cast of characters races through these pages, and keeping track of who’s who, much less whose side they’re on, grows difficult, but I enjoyed this book nevertheless.

Cleffairy: Trapped in a gilded cage, it is a wonder that Empress Orchid did not suicide.

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Autism Speaks! World Autism Awareness Day.

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April is not just about fooling each other silly. Nor it’s about me going into a crazy frenzy writing some nonsense script that may end up forgotten in my HDD a few years later. April is also about Autism. Today is 2nd April 2009, and I’m more than sure that a lot of you out there are not even aware of the significance this date holds.

2nd April is World Autism Awareness Day. Some of you may not know what autism is all about and maybe do not give a damn about it. This article will not be as interesting as watching someone camwhoring or bitch about things that goes wrong in their life. This too, will not be as fun as getting involved in some silly pillow fight.

Most of you out there may wonder why I even bother wasting my precious time writing something that I myself think that people would yawn as they read. Well, I have to say, this certain behavioral disorders like autism, cerebral palsy, ADHD, spastic are something that is close to home, and to my heart. this issue is something very personal to me.

Autism  is something every single married couple with children and planning to have children should know and understand about. Your child may have autism or autism tendency and you may not know about it, and passing these special and gifted children as retard and incapable of learning. Parents with children who have communication problems or their physical development seems to be impeded sometimes passed off their child as slow learners, but what they do not know is that their child have this condition known as autism.

So, what is autism, you ask me…well, allow me to elaborate:

Autism is a complex neurobiological disorder that typically lasts throughout a person’s lifetime. It is part of a group of disorders known as autism spectrum disorders (ASD). Today, 1 in 150 individuals is diagnosed with autism, making it more common than pediatric cancer, diabetes, and AIDS combined. It occurs in all racial, ethnic, and social groups and is four times more likely to strike boys than girls. Autism impairs a person’s ability to communicate and relate to others. It is also associated with rigid routines and repetitive behaviors, such as obsessively arranging objects or following very specific routines. Symptoms can range from very mild to quite severe.

Autism spectrum disorders can usually be reliably diagnosed by age 3, although new research is pushing back the age of diagnosis to as early as 6 months. Parents are usually the first to notice unusual behaviors in their child or their child’s failure to reach appropriate developmental milestones. Some parents describe a child that seemed different from birth, while others describe a child who was developing normally and then lost skills. Pediatricians may initially dismiss signs of autism, thinking a child will “catch up,” and may advise parents to “wait and see.” New research shows that when parents suspect something is wrong with their child, they are usually correct. If you have concerns about your child’s development, don’t wait: speak to your pediatrician about getting your child screened for autism.

If your child is diagnosed with autism, early intervention is critical to gain maximum benefit from existing therapies. Although parents may have concerns about labeling a toddler as “autistic,” the earlier the diagnosis is made, the earlier interventions can begin. Currently, there are no effective means to prevent autism, no fully effective treatments, and no cure. Research indicates, however, that early intervention in an appropriate educational setting for at least two years during the preschool years can result in significant improvements for many young children with autism spectrum disorders. As soon as autism is diagnosed, early intervention instruction should begin. Effective programs focus on developing communication, social, and cognitive skills.

I took great pains this morning to watch MHI that’s aired on TV3 just to hear their guest of the day, someone from NASOM- Malaysia National Autism&Spastic Organization. NASOM is an organization that provide screening and behavioural theraphies for autistic and spastic for some disgusting amount of money. (yeah, their treatments and theraphies are not free).

MHI broadcasted what NASOM fellers do, and from the bottom of my heart, I am extremely dissapointed to find that these creeps treat autistic children like retards who are incapable of learning. Most children who are autistic are usually very good in maths, and yet they do not concentrate on these special children’s ability and make effort to expand their capabilities in maths. Children who are spastic seems to be looked down upon by the professionals in NASOM and they are labeled as a disabled, though the actual fact is the other way around. The children there are not taught like normal children, and they are forced to learn at a very slow pace and consequently, effectively stopping their inquiring mind to learn and ask more question about their surrounding.

These children are only thought to be independent, not educating them the way they should be doing. They are treated like Down Syndrome kids. Autistic and spactic children, whether they are smart or not, they are labeled as retard, and counsellings and brainwashing session are provided to parents to force the parents to slow their children down. Religious talks on how parents should accept God’s plans and will and treat these children like retards are thrown in for good measure. Parents are actually told it is all right to label their child as a retard that’s incapable of learning.

Fuck it, why does Malaysian have to do everything the wrong way? I’ve seen how Singaporean and European treat autistic, spastic and ADHD children. They treated these kids like a genius and make effort to improve their behaviour and learning abilities. Conductive environment are prepared for these children. They concentrated on these children’s talentst, such as maths, music, arts at an early stage. Therapies are develop to stimulate their brain activities. As a result, most of their autistic, spastic as well as ADHD children end up excelling in their life and most are specialized in area that they are good at.

Most of you might not know this, but Albert Einstein was an autistic child too. Look how he end up? He ended up a genius because his mother, Pauline Einstein refused to let people around him treat Einstein like a retard the way people do in Malaysia. Einstein was raised like a genius despite of his communication problems during his early childhood years.

Tom Cruise, yeah, that handsome hunk who acted in Mission impossible was a special child too. He was an ADHD child, and look where he ended up? He ended up being very good in acting and is a movie star adored by many.

I think Malaysia is totally, completely screwed, because we could actually have a lot of Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison and Tom Cruise in the making, and yet those children are categorized as retards who are incapable of learning and they restrict these children from advancing by just teaching them to take care of themselves, and nothing else. These children are treated like a nuisance while in truth, they are diamond in the rough.

I do not expect anyone to answer or even comment to this article, but I hope married couples with kids and without kids out there could keep in mind that if they ever have a child  or relatives who are autistic, spastic or even ADHD, please do keep in mind that these children are actually intelligent in their own ways. They are different or have troubles communicating because they are gifted in certain ways, and it’s your  responsibilities to improve them intellectually. Never ever treat them like a retard who are incapable of learning, because if you do that, you will loose an Einstein in the making!


Cleffairy: God is fair. Because some children are gifted in certain ways, God takes away some of their other abilities or make them slower in that area to be fair to others. Do you a guys agree with my statement?


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