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Joint Responsibility

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I’ve been meaning to write about this since last year, and I have no idea why I’ve been procrastinating writing this down. Perhaps, my temper did not flare enough for me to put it into words. Or perhaps, it is because only today I felt the need to express this, as I’ve seen no changes or progress in the matter that I shall soon delve in.

Frankly speaking though, it’s neither. It is actually because, all my life, I’ve always felt that I delivered my thoughts better through writing than merely speaking. People in my life simply DO NOT LISTEN, or PRETENDED not to, and usually, I have no other place to vent my anger besides places where I could write them down.

Talking to people in my life sometimes is as useless as talking to the wall. Believe me, it’s not that I did not try to communicate what’s bothering me, but they are hardheaded and sometimes do not listen to other’s advice for they think they are such smart ass when the fact is they are a true jackass. I always ended up angrier when I spoke about it because it simply do not work with the hardheaded bastards. I’ve always feel that at least, when I blog about certain matters that’s eating me alive I get a more desirable respond than confronting the matter.

So, allow me to talk about this: Joint responsibility.

No, I’m not talking about joint responsibilities between spouses in their respective household, that will have to wait until next time. This time I’d like to talk about joint responsibility between siblings in caring for elder relatives- such as an aging parent, dying relatives, etc.

You see, dear readers, I’ve always hate freeloaders. They work me up to the point that I feel that I would tear my own head apart if I could. They pissed me off to no end, because ever since I was a little girl, I was thought to walk with my chin up and with dignity and pride, and no matter what I do, I must not freeload on others. I was thought not to beg for help, even if I’m starving on the street.

For some this may not be such a good trait, cuz it often tends to make one suffer than having an easy and luxurious life. But it works for me. It makes me what I am today. It makes me stronger.

Yes, my father had taught me well. He not only taught me the ways of the world, but he also thought me to be a responsible person- where I must be responsible for myself and people around me. And as a firstborn, I was also thought to care for the younger and have compassion for the elders. So even if I don’t like it, I will still be responsible for what I am supposed to be responsible with.

Unfortunately for me, and perhaps my little family too, other people’s father and mothers did not have enough conscience to teach their children what my father had instilled into me through his wise words and actions.

They had spoiled their children rotten, and they were not thought to be responsible even for themselves, and in the end, they take the easy way out by literally going around freeloading and behaves like an irresponsible fool, even when they are already married and have children of their own. These people have a mindset that I could not bear; which is people will clear up their problems for them each time they ask for help.

These people too are the kind of people who will without a doubt forsake their aging parents when the time comes for them to take care of their aging parents. They will give many kind of excuses so that they will not need to take responsibility and be a responsible person. They prefer to pass on their responsibility to their siblings who sometimes have no choice but to take sole responsibility on their aging or sick parents just because the other one absolutely refuse to take do their part and share the responsibility of taking care of their elders.

Among lames excuses that I’ve heard countlessly before and I don’t doubt that I’ll be hearing them again are until the day that I breathe my last:

1. Mum/dad prefers you over me. So just let them stay with you.

2. I’m not financially stable yet. I may be sacked soon… or demoted… or you name it.

3. The economy is not good, I need extra cash to feed my family. Why don’t you take responsibility? Your financial seems better than mine.

4. I have more children than you, whom are going to school… bla bla bla… your brat is not going to school yet, you have less burden than me, so why don’t you take responsibility?

5. My wife/ spouse does not get along well with with the in laws. I will get into HUGE trouble if I take care of of mum/dad. You wouldn’t want me to get into a huge fight and ruin my marriage, will you?

They will give countless of excuses so that they will not be burdened with the joint responsibility of taking care of their aging parents. Taking care of their parents, or giving some sort of allowance to them is considered a gruesome task. They care for nothing but themselves and their own happiness. They gave no thoughts that their behaviour gave problems to their siblings who finds it hard to take responsibility on their aging parents all by themselves-morally and financially.

They said the aging parent in question prefers the other sibling them. But the fact is, their attitude displease everyone. Everyone gets sick of them, and even when people express displeasure towards their irresponsible attitude, they turn blind eye towards the issue and they flare their bloody tempers.

They tell people that their financially unstable and therefore, other sibling(s) who earns more should take sole responsibility on caring for their aging parents. But to me, this is just excuse. If they can afford to spoil their spouse and children with luxury and feed their brats til they become a glutton of a pig, and lavish their wives with expensive and unnecessary things or invest in countless insurance so that they could die a rich man, why can’t they contribute a penny or two as well?

They always say they have no money. Frankly speaking, I just think it’s either a lame excuse to escape the responsibility or poor personal financial management. If their other sibling who earns less than them could take on the responsibility, why can’t they? It only comes to one thing: They do not want to be responsible. THEY DO NOT WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE! That is why!

They say they have more children, and therefore, the cost of their upbringing is higher than the other siblings. I suppose it never crossed their birdbrain that their siblings too have burdens of their own, and their action have cost problems to their sibling’s family as well.

They said, their spouse does not like their aging parents, and if they provide a roof over the  aging parent’s head, World War III will erupt. My word! I can’t believe it never crossed their mind that their siblings too will have problems with their spouse if they take on the responsibility completely on their own.

I’ve always hate these kind of people, and I can never find it in my heart to respect them, especially when they are a older than me. It disgust me to no end, no matter what excuses they give to justify their action. Never ever ask me to respect these kind of people because if you do, all you get will only be my wrath. I don’t have even a morsel of respect or admiration for such people.

My respect is not for these kind of irresponsible, selfish and obnoxious bastards. They are definitely intolerable, and if they are dead the next minute of my life, I will not mourn for them. Instead, I’ll be having a party to celebrate the fact that one more useless person in my life is gone for good. The absence of these kind of people is a relief, for they only burden others. Good riddance to bad rubbish, I must say.

Unfortunately, irresponsible and selfish people do not die easily. They just don’t get it, and they won’t disappear and I can only hope that retribution will come without fail, and in the future, they will be placed in the same predicament that they have put their parents or their siblings through. Children usually learn from example. And being irresponsible is not a good example to growing children. I hope, one day, they will feel how it is like when their children behave as irresponsible as them when they are old and senile.


Cleffairy: It disgust me that sometimes, people who are older than me are incapable of being responsible for themselves and failed to do their part in caring for their elders. Never ever ask me to give face or demand me to respect these kind of people, because they only deserve blasphemy from me. You want respect from me because I am younger than you? Earn it then!

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The Creepy Grolier Monster

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I am not sure if any of you out there have had a nasty encounter with the Grolier monster. They are the kind of monsters in businessman’s clothing and frankly speaking, yours truly despise them to death and wish that these monsters could be sent to the guillotine so that their obnoxious head could be seperated forcefully from their neck and consequently, they could stop stop trying to convince unsuspecting human from buying their products in an extremely persistent manner .

If you are young, single, have no children, then you probably haven’t had your unfortunate meeting with the nasty, time-eating monsters who talked non-stop to convince you to buy their products that in their eyes, are the best in the world.

If you are married, have children, or happens to go shopping in a supermarket with a toddler or children who are in primary school, then you probably have had your own share of nightmare of the Grolier monster. But for those who haven’t had the misfortune to meet with any of this monsters, allow me to tell you what is the Grolier monsters, and what they actually do.

Grolier…it is actually a company that sells educational program. Some of you may have heard of it. Their so-called bestselling product is Magic English and some bloody encyclopedia that I could not give a damn about, and every now and then, you can see their booth in major supermarket where unsuspecting parents lurk to buy their groceries… like Carrefour, Giant, Jusco, and many more.

I was approached by these monsters myself awhile ago when I was on my recent shopping trip with my family. I have to applaud their marketing strategy their booth are usually placed at the entrance or the exit inside those supermarket, where people could not possibly escape even if they tried. Their booth are usually decorated with balloons, huge toys, a tv set, a huge book rack to attract toddlers and children. They even played psychology game where they blow some balloons and offer it to little children as a lure to stop both parents and children to stop by their booth.

Now, here’s my story. I was walking to the entrance of the supermarket with my family and some of the children that I was taking care of. And you know that it is quite common for people to place children inside the shopping trolley so that the children will not run about and get lost at the hyper mart, right? Well, these Grolier monsters will stop at nothing until they sell their products, and will do anything to get parent’s attention or to persuade the children to throw tantrums so that the parents will have no choice but to give in and buy their bloody stuff.

What happened was that these Grolier salesmen will not give in when you told them that you are not interested in their products. They don’t take no as an answer. They are persistent bastards that would go as lowly as to stand in front of your shopping trolley, block it so that you could not push them away and continue to persuade you on the spot to buy their products (Magic English and some bloody encyclopedia).

Even when you told them that you are not interested to buy their freaking products or have no use for their products, they would say that it is good for your children’s knowledge. They claimed that their products are good investment for your children’s future, and the way they said it sounded as if that you and your children know nothing about English or the education world. When you wanted to leave, they will beg you for a bloody 5 minutes for them to explain about their products… and this bloody 5 minutes will usually last for more than 1 hour if you do not escape these bloody monsters.

In this so called 5 minutes… the monster that is assigned to steal your time will explain that they were from a famous publisher and distributer of children’s book called Scholastic. (Scholastic products are good, but these creeps are tainting Scholastic name by performing such an aggresive marketing strategy)

From the website, they claim that they are leader in educational technology, which is helping children around the world to ‘Learn and Read’ with their world renown programs. The product that they will try to persuade you to buy is of course, Magic English books and CD set.

But later, they will proceed to explain that this is Scholastic’s partnership publisher – Grolier’s book stall, and this is their booth, and the booth will only be there for only two weeks, which is a complete lie because they are there almost every goddamn day throughout the year. (I know so because I frequent the hypermarket often enough to know what stall and booth is there all the time and what is not.) Be forewarned, that they will usually tell you that they will only be there for a limited time for a reason-which is to persuade you to buy their products on the spot without any second thoughts.

The monster that’s assigned to you will further introduced you to one of the educational book set which is costed a whooping RM2300. Now, ladies and gentleman that’s such an expensive book set. Bloody hell! You can already buy a bloody laptop so that you children could learn from the world wise web under supervision with this disgusting amount of money.

Anyway, the said book set contains the following items:

  • A few story books and CDs
  • 10 sets of play and learn activities about colors, shapes, numbers
  • A few books on common words and objects which can help your children to pick up more than 3600 vocabularies in each book. They cover a lot of different categories such as zoo, school, adjectives, actions and many more.
  • Almost 30 “I wonder why, encyclopedia books”

However, ladies and gentlemen, if you listen closely enough to the Grolier monsters in the form of sales reps, you’ll learn that they don’t actually sell you books, but put you on a subscription program. It is noticeable because of the monsters’ condescending approach in trying to get sales. The way the behave is as if they are on a mission. No matter what they do, they will try their best to get you to subscribe to their ‘program’.

The monsters in question tried to point out the benefits of their books (especially the encyclopedias) by trying to ask questions for which they don’t think you know the answers. They too will treat you like a complete idiot who does not know English language and any common knowledge at all. This one pissed me off like hell. As far as I’m concern the Grolier monsters does not speak the Queen’s English, and therefore I blasted with some into their face when they tried to imply that I do not speak proper English and not fit to teach the children under my charge the bloody language. The Grolier monster was flabbergasted for a few moment, but quickly recovered by asking me some questions to divert my attention.

Obviously these monsters are the ones who do not understand English, for they do not comprehend the word ‘No’ or “I am not interested’. My encounters with these suckers is completely a waste of time, because I was not interested in their products and by the time they are through with their bla bla bla, the god forsaken hyper mart is already closed and I could not even buy what I intend to buy in the first place by going there. If I could sue them for wasting my precious time, I really would have done that.

Though yours truly have always believe that books are source of knowledge, but then again, this is the modern era. Books are not only the source of knowledge that you could feed to your young children. There are many more ways for you to teach your children knowledge.

While the products are good in quality, but could you honestly expect children who are as young as 3 years old to sit down and pay attention to read every single books and every single CDs that they sold to us? Children usually have short span of attention, and to most, reading are boring. I do not like the notion that the Grolier monsters are trying to send across, which is to leave your children unattended in front of the TV and absorb whatever the CDs displayed. The best way for children to learn is through playing, and that is not what they are doing. Children too need guidance from parents or caregivers when it comes to learning language…not just books and machines. They need human to teach them and books and CDs are best used as reference, that’s what I always believe.

Books, CDs and whatnot are just tools, not teachers. It is also no use if you buy the books and yet the children are not even interested to look at them. Parents who wants to cultivate their children reading habits should realize that it have to be slowly done… by showing them interesting books that they like, or the excellent show of reading habits by parents themselves. And the books that’s bought, does not necessarily have to come in set or bloody expensive. While the Grolier monsters thinks that children should not be exposed to the world of internet so early, I think getting the children IT-savvy at a young age by letting them use the computer often is crucial in this modern era.

Web sites such as Playhouse Disney Channel, Noggin, Sesame Street and the BBC’s Cbeebies have interesting educational web games and content for children so pray tell, Grolier monsters, why do I have to burn a huge hole in my pocket just so that I could educate the children while I can get high quality education program elsewhere for free?


Cleffairy: Some people have been wondering how I look like because I’ve never plastered any of my pictures online. Well,if one day, you happened to browse around in Carrefour or Jusco and whatnot and heard a skinny woman in her early 20s screaming her head off, swearing and hurling creative insults nonstop at a Grolier booth, that would be me.

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Children are God's gift

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This post is dedicated to those who have children, or in charge of children. A little bit of something for you guys to ponder upon, and have a good laugh.  Clef is in her weekend mood, so her brain is half dead, too lazy to crack up some original article. Here goes:

Whenever your children are out of control, you can take comfort from the thought that even God’s omnipotence did not extend to His own children.

After creating heaven and earth, God created Adam and Eve.

And the first thing he said was ‘DON’T! ‘


‘Don’t what? ‘ Adam replied.

‘Don’t eat the forbidden fruit.’ God said.

‘Forbidden fruit? We have forbidden fruit? Hey Eve..we have forbidden fruit! ‘
‘No Way! ‘

‘Yes way! ‘

‘Do NOT eat the fruit! ‘said God.

‘Why ? ‘

‘Because I am your Father and I said so! ‘ God replied, wondering why He hadn’t stopped creation after making the elephants.

A few minutes later,God saw His children having an apple break and He was ticked!

‘Didn’t I tell you not to eat the fruit? ‘ God asked.

‘Uh huh,’ Adam replied.

‘Then why did you?’said the Father.

‘I don’t know,’said Eve.

‘She started it! ‘ Adam said.

‘Did not! ‘

‘Did too! ‘

‘DID NOT! ‘

Having had it with the two of them, God’s punishment was that Adam and Eve should have children of their own.

Thus the pattern was set and it has never changed.

BUT THERE IS REASSURANCE IN THE STORY

If you have persistently and lovingly tried to give children wisdom and they haven’t taken it, don’t be hard on yourself.

If God had trouble raising children, what makes you think it would be a piece of cake for you?

THINGS TO THINK ABOUT

1. You spend the first two years of their life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next sixteen telling them to sit down and shut up.

2. Grandchildren are God’s reward for not killing your own children.

3. Mothers of teens now know why some animals eat their young.

4. Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn’t have said.

5. The main purpose of holding children’s parties is to remind yourself that there are children more awful than your own.

6. We childproofed our homes, but they are still getting in.

ADVICE FOR THE DAY:

Be nice to your kids. They will choose your nursing home one day.

AND FINALLY:

IF YOU ! HAVE A LOT OF TENSION AND YOU GET A HEADACHE, DO WHAT IT SAYS ON THE ASPIRIN BOTTLE:

'TAKE TWO ASPIRIN' AND

'KEEP AWAY

FROM CHILDREN'!!!


Cleffairy: Children are all about trials and terror, trust me on this.
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Children are God’s gift

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This post is dedicated to those who have children, or in charge of children. A little bit of something for you guys to ponder upon, and have a good laugh.  Clef is in her weekend mood, so her brain is half dead, too lazy to crack up some original article. Here goes:

Whenever your children are out of control, you can take comfort from the thought that even God’s omnipotence did not extend to His own children.

After creating heaven and earth, God created Adam and Eve.

And the first thing he said was ‘DON’T! ‘


‘Don’t what? ‘ Adam replied.

‘Don’t eat the forbidden fruit.’ God said.

‘Forbidden fruit? We have forbidden fruit? Hey Eve..we have forbidden fruit! ‘
‘No Way! ‘

‘Yes way! ‘

‘Do NOT eat the fruit! ‘said God.

‘Why ? ‘

‘Because I am your Father and I said so! ‘ God replied, wondering why He hadn’t stopped creation after making the elephants.

A few minutes later,God saw His children having an apple break and He was ticked!

‘Didn’t I tell you not to eat the fruit? ‘ God asked.

‘Uh huh,’ Adam replied.

‘Then why did you?’said the Father.

‘I don’t know,’said Eve.

‘She started it! ‘ Adam said.

‘Did not! ‘

‘Did too! ‘

‘DID NOT! ‘

Having had it with the two of them, God’s punishment was that Adam and Eve should have children of their own.

Thus the pattern was set and it has never changed.

BUT THERE IS REASSURANCE IN THE STORY

If you have persistently and lovingly tried to give children wisdom and they haven’t taken it, don’t be hard on yourself.

If God had trouble raising children, what makes you think it would be a piece of cake for you?

THINGS TO THINK ABOUT

1. You spend the first two years of their life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next sixteen telling them to sit down and shut up.

2. Grandchildren are God’s reward for not killing your own children.

3. Mothers of teens now know why some animals eat their young.

4. Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn’t have said.

5. The main purpose of holding children’s parties is to remind yourself that there are children more awful than your own.

6. We childproofed our homes, but they are still getting in.

ADVICE FOR THE DAY:

Be nice to your kids. They will choose your nursing home one day.

AND FINALLY:

IF YOU ! HAVE A LOT OF TENSION AND YOU GET A HEADACHE, DO WHAT IT SAYS ON THE ASPIRIN BOTTLE:

'TAKE TWO ASPIRIN' AND

'KEEP AWAY

FROM CHILDREN'!!!


Cleffairy: Children are all about trials and terror, trust me on this.
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Children are God’s gift

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This post is dedicated to those who have children, or in charge of children. A little bit of something for you guys to ponder upon, and have a good laugh.  Clef is in her weekend mood, so her brain is half dead, too lazy to crack up some original article. Here goes:

Whenever your children are out of control, you can take comfort from the thought that even God’s omnipotence did not extend to His own children.

After creating heaven and earth, God created Adam and Eve.

And the first thing he said was ‘DON’T! ‘


‘Don’t what? ‘ Adam replied.

‘Don’t eat the forbidden fruit.’ God said.

‘Forbidden fruit? We have forbidden fruit? Hey Eve..we have forbidden fruit! ‘
‘No Way! ‘

‘Yes way! ‘

‘Do NOT eat the fruit! ‘said God.

‘Why ? ‘

‘Because I am your Father and I said so! ‘ God replied, wondering why He hadn’t stopped creation after making the elephants.

A few minutes later,God saw His children having an apple break and He was ticked!

‘Didn’t I tell you not to eat the fruit? ‘ God asked.

‘Uh huh,’ Adam replied.

‘Then why did you?’said the Father.

‘I don’t know,’said Eve.

‘She started it! ‘ Adam said.

‘Did not! ‘

‘Did too! ‘

‘DID NOT! ‘

Having had it with the two of them, God’s punishment was that Adam and Eve should have children of their own.

Thus the pattern was set and it has never changed.

BUT THERE IS REASSURANCE IN THE STORY

If you have persistently and lovingly tried to give children wisdom and they haven’t taken it, don’t be hard on yourself.

If God had trouble raising children, what makes you think it would be a piece of cake for you?

THINGS TO THINK ABOUT

1. You spend the first two years of their life teaching them to walk and talk. Then you spend the next sixteen telling them to sit down and shut up.

2. Grandchildren are God’s reward for not killing your own children.

3. Mothers of teens now know why some animals eat their young.

4. Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn’t have said.

5. The main purpose of holding children’s parties is to remind yourself that there are children more awful than your own.

6. We childproofed our homes, but they are still getting in.

ADVICE FOR THE DAY:

Be nice to your kids. They will choose your nursing home one day.

AND FINALLY:

IF YOU ! HAVE A LOT OF TENSION AND YOU GET A HEADACHE, DO WHAT IT SAYS ON THE ASPIRIN BOTTLE:

'TAKE TWO ASPIRIN' AND

'KEEP AWAY

FROM CHILDREN'!!!


Cleffairy: Children are all about trials and terror, trust me on this.
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Autism Speaks! World Autism Awareness Day.

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April is not just about fooling each other silly. Nor it’s about me going into a crazy frenzy writing some nonsense script that may end up forgotten in my HDD a few years later. April is also about Autism. Today is 2nd April 2009, and I’m more than sure that a lot of you out there are not even aware of the significance this date holds.

2nd April is World Autism Awareness Day. Some of you may not know what autism is all about and maybe do not give a damn about it. This article will not be as interesting as watching someone camwhoring or bitch about things that goes wrong in their life. This too, will not be as fun as getting involved in some silly pillow fight.

Most of you out there may wonder why I even bother wasting my precious time writing something that I myself think that people would yawn as they read. Well, I have to say, this certain behavioral disorders like autism, cerebral palsy, ADHD, spastic are something that is close to home, and to my heart. this issue is something very personal to me.

Autism  is something every single married couple with children and planning to have children should know and understand about. Your child may have autism or autism tendency and you may not know about it, and passing these special and gifted children as retard and incapable of learning. Parents with children who have communication problems or their physical development seems to be impeded sometimes passed off their child as slow learners, but what they do not know is that their child have this condition known as autism.

So, what is autism, you ask me…well, allow me to elaborate:

Autism is a complex neurobiological disorder that typically lasts throughout a person’s lifetime. It is part of a group of disorders known as autism spectrum disorders (ASD). Today, 1 in 150 individuals is diagnosed with autism, making it more common than pediatric cancer, diabetes, and AIDS combined. It occurs in all racial, ethnic, and social groups and is four times more likely to strike boys than girls. Autism impairs a person’s ability to communicate and relate to others. It is also associated with rigid routines and repetitive behaviors, such as obsessively arranging objects or following very specific routines. Symptoms can range from very mild to quite severe.

Autism spectrum disorders can usually be reliably diagnosed by age 3, although new research is pushing back the age of diagnosis to as early as 6 months. Parents are usually the first to notice unusual behaviors in their child or their child’s failure to reach appropriate developmental milestones. Some parents describe a child that seemed different from birth, while others describe a child who was developing normally and then lost skills. Pediatricians may initially dismiss signs of autism, thinking a child will “catch up,” and may advise parents to “wait and see.” New research shows that when parents suspect something is wrong with their child, they are usually correct. If you have concerns about your child’s development, don’t wait: speak to your pediatrician about getting your child screened for autism.

If your child is diagnosed with autism, early intervention is critical to gain maximum benefit from existing therapies. Although parents may have concerns about labeling a toddler as “autistic,” the earlier the diagnosis is made, the earlier interventions can begin. Currently, there are no effective means to prevent autism, no fully effective treatments, and no cure. Research indicates, however, that early intervention in an appropriate educational setting for at least two years during the preschool years can result in significant improvements for many young children with autism spectrum disorders. As soon as autism is diagnosed, early intervention instruction should begin. Effective programs focus on developing communication, social, and cognitive skills.

I took great pains this morning to watch MHI that’s aired on TV3 just to hear their guest of the day, someone from NASOM- Malaysia National Autism&Spastic Organization. NASOM is an organization that provide screening and behavioural theraphies for autistic and spastic for some disgusting amount of money. (yeah, their treatments and theraphies are not free).

MHI broadcasted what NASOM fellers do, and from the bottom of my heart, I am extremely dissapointed to find that these creeps treat autistic children like retards who are incapable of learning. Most children who are autistic are usually very good in maths, and yet they do not concentrate on these special children’s ability and make effort to expand their capabilities in maths. Children who are spastic seems to be looked down upon by the professionals in NASOM and they are labeled as a disabled, though the actual fact is the other way around. The children there are not taught like normal children, and they are forced to learn at a very slow pace and consequently, effectively stopping their inquiring mind to learn and ask more question about their surrounding.

These children are only thought to be independent, not educating them the way they should be doing. They are treated like Down Syndrome kids. Autistic and spactic children, whether they are smart or not, they are labeled as retard, and counsellings and brainwashing session are provided to parents to force the parents to slow their children down. Religious talks on how parents should accept God’s plans and will and treat these children like retards are thrown in for good measure. Parents are actually told it is all right to label their child as a retard that’s incapable of learning.

Fuck it, why does Malaysian have to do everything the wrong way? I’ve seen how Singaporean and European treat autistic, spastic and ADHD children. They treated these kids like a genius and make effort to improve their behaviour and learning abilities. Conductive environment are prepared for these children. They concentrated on these children’s talentst, such as maths, music, arts at an early stage. Therapies are develop to stimulate their brain activities. As a result, most of their autistic, spastic as well as ADHD children end up excelling in their life and most are specialized in area that they are good at.

Most of you might not know this, but Albert Einstein was an autistic child too. Look how he end up? He ended up a genius because his mother, Pauline Einstein refused to let people around him treat Einstein like a retard the way people do in Malaysia. Einstein was raised like a genius despite of his communication problems during his early childhood years.

Tom Cruise, yeah, that handsome hunk who acted in Mission impossible was a special child too. He was an ADHD child, and look where he ended up? He ended up being very good in acting and is a movie star adored by many.

I think Malaysia is totally, completely screwed, because we could actually have a lot of Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison and Tom Cruise in the making, and yet those children are categorized as retards who are incapable of learning and they restrict these children from advancing by just teaching them to take care of themselves, and nothing else. These children are treated like a nuisance while in truth, they are diamond in the rough.

I do not expect anyone to answer or even comment to this article, but I hope married couples with kids and without kids out there could keep in mind that if they ever have a child  or relatives who are autistic, spastic or even ADHD, please do keep in mind that these children are actually intelligent in their own ways. They are different or have troubles communicating because they are gifted in certain ways, and it’s your  responsibilities to improve them intellectually. Never ever treat them like a retard who are incapable of learning, because if you do that, you will loose an Einstein in the making!


Cleffairy: God is fair. Because some children are gifted in certain ways, God takes away some of their other abilities or make them slower in that area to be fair to others. Do you a guys agree with my statement?


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Virgin Dillemma

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Let’s do a bit of time travelling. Go back in time… say, 30 years ago. Petrol are damn cheap, cost of living are low, and everything are simple and natural. There are no nip&tuck doctors around to create walking silicon monsters and politicians are patriotic and have the heart to serve instead of being power thirsty and money minded. Families are of course simple and stayed together like families should and people do not divorce and re-marry at whim. We do not have ex-wives hunting ex-husbands for alimony cheque all the time and good girls do not go clubbing and are chaste and do not take their virginity lightly.

If you happen to be some a teenage boy with raging hormones flowing in your veins, you would appreciate a good date or two and would try to make out with your girl at the backseat of your daddy’s Volkswagon Beetle or some secluded place. But once you grow up and become a man, you would expect that your bride to be is a virgin on your wedding night, and it doesn’t matter if you’ve have sex countless times before you’re married.

Now, hit the fast forward button to 2009 and you can say that the world is not like what it used to be with conviction. Life is more complicated, expensive and stressful. The world is more artificial and people are going loon over those papers known as ‘money’. The phrase ‘family first’ held no meaning to most and good girls and boys can almost be classified in the same group as the long extinct Saber Tooth Tiger. They almost don’t exists anymore. We can barely tell who is straight and who is homosexual, and not to mention that one tend to wonder if a person’s beauty is natural or have been surgically improvised.

Virginity are no longer treasured, and some girls would do anything in their power to shed it by the time she hit the legal age to have sex and men seems to no longer care about their wife being a virgin or not during their first night together as husband and wife. People no longer choose to stay chaste and pure. People have sex before they got married all the time and delight in the experience of it. Some people would even think that a woman is somewhat problematic if she claimed herself to be a virgin at the age of 20++

Following the trend that women must be sexually experienced in her twenties, some woman find it hard to stay chaste, and some have troubles to find Mr. Right even, as men these days either expect their girlfriend to be sexually experienced or have sex with them before marriage. Some men respect their girlfriend. I am not saying that they are not respecting their partner. But then again, if a girl doesn’t want to have sex with them, what will they do? Well, most would make the girl want to have sex with them. They lure the ladies to their bed with their gentle seduction and the ladies are definitely a willing partner. Some regret jumping into bed with their partner, while some don’t even give a damn about it. Whether their decision to have sex before marriage is right or wrong, is another story. The most important thing to them is that they are sexually satiated.

Sex before marriage is normal to most. And for those who are loyal enough, their relationship would last til holy matrimony. Otherwise, their relationship will be considered a memorable affair and they will go their separate ways and one day will find their true love who did not mind their lack of chastity or virginity. Some women would think that a man who is sexually experienced are capable to pleasure them, and this is a plus point. However, yours truly think that any man who loves their partner enough to please her before he satisfy himself is better than those who are ‘sexually experienced’ and yet selfish in bed.

Unless a person is truly religious and God fearing, remaining chaste and pure until the wedding night is almost unheard of, especially for those who live in the city. While I’ve come to accept this sexual revolution where women are not necessarily virgin and men are not necessarily chaste on their wedding night, I find it disturbing that there are children as young as 13 years old who are not virgin by their own choice. Try as I might, I couldn’t understand why some punk teenage girls couldn’t wait to shed their virginity as soon as they find a partner who is willing to do the deed. (Well, don’t blame me… I was still going around watching Sailormoon, Dragonball and Doraemon when I was 13. LOL). Don’t tell me that virginity so worthless that they couldn’t wait to get rid of it and experiment around?

Even if one wants to have sex, isn’t it better if they wait to give up their virginity to the one that they truly love and convinced that that’s the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with? Wouldn’t that be more worth it, to have the first time with someone you truly love, and love you in return? Consummation of love is a lot better than casual sex, isn’t it?


Cleffairy: Whatever happened to the romantic thoughts of ‘saving yourself’ for your soulmate?

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My sincerest apologies to my readers as I haven’t been making effort to conjure some nice article to ponder upon. Some atomic bomb is strapped to my ass, and would explode if I were to allow myself the pleasure of blogging. Okay, maybe not atomic bomb, but I’m dead busy, and my boss is constantly firing away. And when I’m finally free to do some writing, I feel like my body is going against me and forced me to sleep. LOL. Okay, I know my excuses are lame, but busy as I am, I won’t allow my hectic life to take away my recently adopted Friday ritual-which is to answer Eugene’s weekly quiz. So, here goes nothing…

1)What is the one thing you think you have not given or done enough for your children?

Frankly speaking, I think I have never done enough. And I think I would never be able to do enough for my children…nothing I did seems to be enough. When I loved them, I feel that I could have loved them more. Does this makes any sense? Mummy always want to do best, and always want to give the best to her children, so nothing would be enough. Whatever she does, she think she could strive to do better, and give her child/children the life and a loving family that they truly deserved. But if there’s truly one thing that I didn’t give my child/children enough, it would be ‘time’.

2) If your son were to be a famous frontman in a heavy metal group,what would be the one thing,you’d advise him to refrain from, besides sex and drug ?

I’d advice against crime. And I’d also advice against infidelity and encourage my son to be monogamous if he were to get married.

3)what would be the next best analogy you’d give to your children apart from “honey and the bee” when explaining about sex?

What? Are you kidding? Kids these days are well informed. I’d sooner allowed them to watch documentary about how C-section being performed than keep them in the dark about sex. The sooner I’d allowed them to watch that sort of documentary, the longer they can remain an innocent child. But if I have to choose an analogy, I’d go purely medical and scientific about it. So… the terms vagina and penis would be used. (Whatcha looking at? Do you honestly think that I will spat the word cibai and kukujiao to my kids??? Geez!)

4)If your child asks you to do just one crazy thing from him/her, what would you do?

Dance some sexy tango with my husband in front of my conservative mother in law. In any luck, she’ll be traumatized and ended up having amnesia and won’t have time to nag nag and nag me for not feeding/raising my kids properly.

😛

5)What would your first reaction be, when you see your child blowing a condom into a balloon?

Honestly, do you think that never happened before? *sigh* I’d probably scowl but would let my kid off. It’s a good thing that he blew the condom as he thought it’s a balloon. I’ll totally freaked out if he placed it on his penis. Blowing it into balloon is fine with me. Nothing to be surprised or fussed about. After all, that bloody thing really does look like balloon anyway.

6)How would you explain yourself,when you’re caught watching porn by your child?

*clears throat* I would thank God that my kid didn’t actually see me in some passionate action with my husband. In any case, I’d maintain the ‘stern’ mummy facade and told my kid that this ‘stuff’ is not for children to watch and chase them to bed or do their homework.

7)What is your favourite phrase when you are scolding your children?

“Keep quiet! Mummy is trying get some rest!” and ” Stop playing already” and not to mention “No TV!!!”. But my personal favourite have to be “I’m telling your Papa about this! Just you wait!”

8)What is the best money advice,you would want your children to inherit?

Spending wisely and knowing the value of hard earned money.

9)What you do if your child says this to you ” my boyfriend is a girl or My girlfrined is a boy?

My first respond would be “Screw you!” but my second one would be a deep thinking on where I’ve gone wrong in raising my son/daughter that they choose to be homosexual. I must have done something wrong if they ended up that way. 🙁

10)what is just one thing you think your children dislike about you?

My mood swings as well as my A-type personality.

Cleffairy: Whatever you do for your children, it would never be enough, as you could always do better.

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Siblings Rivalry & Favouritisms

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I come from a family where my parents loves me and my younger sister unconditionally. Even though my parents have high expectation from both of us, they accepted our strong points and tolerate our weakness. They love both of us for who we are, and that is one thing that that no outsiders could deny. They love us, and they are not shameful of showing their affection to both of their daughters, even in public. Which is pretty rare for Asians. My sister and I do have to endure occasional bear hug from our mother in public and our father’s constant kiddy treats like ice cream and cookies during our family outings to this very day. While it’s a little embarrassing for both of us, we do appreciate the fact that no matter what happens, and no matter how old we grew up to be, we’ll always be our parent’s little girl. It is nice and comforting to know that.

My parents made sure that both of us felt their unconditional love for us. However, they do not treat me and my sister the same way, because they could never have, but that does not mean that my parents treated us unfairly, that’s merely because my sister and I are both two different individual. We may be alike in a lot of ways, but we’re also completely two different individual in other ways.

When my kid sister was just born, I felt that she took away my parents from me, because they pay her more attention to her than me, and she always gets me into trouble with my mom and dad with her constant reports and complain of my teasing and bullying. I used to think that my parents loved her more than me, but as I grew older, I realized that they loved us all the same, only in different ways, because my sister and are two different individuals and affection as well as attention should be given differently according to our personality. I assume, a lot of parents are like this too.

Anyway, enough about me and my sister. Let’s get back to the thing that I would like to send across today which is siblings rivalry and favoritism among immediate family members. Boring and lame topic, no? But I came from a family where my parents loves me and my younger sister for who we are and accepted our flaws, no matter how bad and annoying it is, so when I came across families who loved and care for one child more than the others is rather awkward for me to see.

I could never get used to seeing a father or mother shoving one of his son in a corner and treated him like nothing more than a punching bag to release tension and stress, just because that child is just mediocre in everything while he dote on his other children as if they are his treasure.

I saw some element of favoritisms today in a restaurant that I patronized during lunch with my colleague where a father treated his son, which I assume, his second son rather unfairly in comparison to his eldest and his youngest children. The boy in question was having a bowl of rice with dishes in front of him. While the father filled up the elder brother and younger sister’s bowl with meats and veggie, this poor boy had none. The father  did not even attempt to put any dishes on this boy’s bowl and deliberately ignored him.

And so, I continued to watch the family of four with sadness and sympathy for the boy. The boy wore a hurt look on his face, but put up a cheerful front and reached out for the last piece of fried chicken with his chopsticks and placed it on his bowl, and was about to eat it when his elder brother, whom in my eyes is rather bratty and lack of manners, started to whine and told the father that the younger brother took his favourite dish, which is the chicken wings.

I was not prepared to see what happened next, and I would have curse the father all the way to hell if I did not hold my tongue in the presence of my colleague. Guess what the father did, my precious readers? He gave the second son a dirty look, and reached out for the piece of chicken in the younger son’s bowl by using a pair of chopsticks and placed it on the elder son’s bowl and told him to eat it.

The younger boy protested his father’s action, claiming that he took it first, but the father simply barked at him and told him to shut up instead of filling the younger boy’s bowl with other dishes as a compensation to his loss. What disgust me was not only how the father treated his children in such an unfair and undignified way, but also at the way he spoiled and pampered his elder son. Even if the elder son is his favourite kid, does this mean he could hurt his other son’s feelings that way?

I was completely stupefied to see that the elder brother ‘s reaction to all of these. He laughed at his younger brother’s predicament and wore this smug and satisfied smirk as he’s gotten what he wanted in the first place-which I suspect not only the chicken, but to see his younger brother being shouted at by their father.

Frankly speaking, if I was the mother of the elder boy, I would have slapped him across the face  or give him a piece of my mind for being such a glutton. What else could you do to instill manner in a spoil rotten child who have his bowl full of dishes and still want to take away a measly piece of chicken in his younger brother’s bowl? The boy needs to be taught some manners. But it’s not only manners that the elder boy lack. He also need to be taught on how he should conduct himself with his siblings and be a brother to them instead of only being his father’s pet.

I was practically fuming when I watched the little boy sighed, and in a defeated manner, he reached for some veggies and swallowed the food halfheartedly while watching his brother and sister devoured their food in enjoyment. I do not doubt that the food was tasteless on the younger boy’s tongue.

I was hit hard on the head then, to realize that this is probably a common scene in most families. What’s worst, what I saw today was probably only a little glimpse of what most children who are in raised in big families are forced to endure every single day during their growing up process.

They’re treated unfairly and was ignored all the time because their siblings overshadowed them in many ways and things are never easy for them. Whatever they do were not appreciated as in their parents’ eyes, and they are always useless, stupid, whiny, bratty and ungrateful. They’re always shoved in a small corner as their siblings were put in the spotlight. Sometimes, the parents do not even see the child’s achievement or helpfulness as their favourite are constantly bragging about their contribution and take credit for what their brother or sister has done.

The children who were ignored and lack of love grew up to have rebellious streak and lack respect and love for their parents. They grew up having bitter feelings towards their parents. And they are often misunderstood as the parents refuse to pay even slightest attention to them or spend time with them.

What’s worst, not much thing change when the children grows up. Some parents tend to dote on certain daughters or sons just because one earn more than the other, or one gives more monetary contribution than the other. In worst case scenario, these children’s achievement and success will also be compared with immediate family members of their age, like cousins, or even in laws, not only in private, but in public as well.

I could never stand seeing that, period. I condemned this kind of parents to hell. As a parent, how could you treat your children so differently and love one child and shower him or her with love and attention more than the other? The child that you claim to have flaws and useless is your flesh and blood. Why can’t you treat all of your children as if they are a part of  you instead of some stray puppy you’re forced to shelter in your home?

Cleffairy: Sometimes, just sometimes, I could understand why some children claim that whether their parent(s) are still alive or not makes no difference to them, and they wouldn’t even care if their parent(s) is claimed by Death the very next hour in their life.

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Siblings Rivalry & Favouritisms

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I come from a family where my parents loves me and my younger sister unconditionally. Even though my parents have high expectation from both of us, they accepted our strong points and tolerate our weakness. They love both of us for who we are, and that is one thing that that no outsiders could deny. They love us, and they are not shameful of showing their affection to both of their daughters, even in public. Which is pretty rare for Asians. My sister and I do have to endure occasional bear hug from our mother in public and our father’s constant kiddy treats like ice cream and cookies during our family outings to this very day. While it’s a little embarrassing for both of us, we do appreciate the fact that no matter what happens, and no matter how old we grew up to be, we’ll always be our parent’s little girl. It is nice and comforting to know that.

My parents made sure that both of us felt their unconditional love for us. However, they do not treat me and my sister the same way, because they could never have, but that does not mean that my parents treated us unfairly, that’s merely because my sister and I are both two different individual. We may be alike in a lot of ways, but we’re also completely two different individual in other ways.

When my kid sister was just born, I felt that she took away my parents from me, because they pay her more attention to her than me, and she always gets me into trouble with my mom and dad with her constant reports and complain of my teasing and bullying. I used to think that my parents loved her more than me, but as I grew older, I realized that they loved us all the same, only in different ways, because my sister and are two different individuals and affection as well as attention should be given differently according to our personality. I assume, a lot of parents are like this too.

Anyway, enough about me and my sister. Let’s get back to the thing that I would like to send across today which is siblings rivalry and favoritism among immediate family members. Boring and lame topic, no? But I came from a family where my parents loves me and my younger sister for who we are and accepted our flaws, no matter how bad and annoying it is, so when I came across families who loved and care for one child more than the others is rather awkward for me to see.

I could never get used to seeing a father or mother shoving one of his son in a corner and treated him like nothing more than a punching bag to release tension and stress, just because that child is just mediocre in everything while he dote on his other children as if they are his treasure.

I saw some element of favoritisms today in a restaurant that I patronized during lunch with my colleague where a father treated his son, which I assume, his second son rather unfairly in comparison to his eldest and his youngest children. The boy in question was having a bowl of rice with dishes in front of him. While the father filled up the elder brother and younger sister’s bowl with meats and veggie, this poor boy had none. The father  did not even attempt to put any dishes on this boy’s bowl and deliberately ignored him.

And so, I continued to watch the family of four with sadness and sympathy for the boy. The boy wore a hurt look on his face, but put up a cheerful front and reached out for the last piece of fried chicken with his chopsticks and placed it on his bowl, and was about to eat it when his elder brother, whom in my eyes is rather bratty and lack of manners, started to whine and told the father that the younger brother took his favourite dish, which is the chicken wings.

I was not prepared to see what happened next, and I would have curse the father all the way to hell if I did not hold my tongue in the presence of my colleague. Guess what the father did, my precious readers? He gave the second son a dirty look, and reached out for the piece of chicken in the younger son’s bowl by using a pair of chopsticks and placed it on the elder son’s bowl and told him to eat it.

The younger boy protested his father’s action, claiming that he took it first, but the father simply barked at him and told him to shut up instead of filling the younger boy’s bowl with other dishes as a compensation to his loss. What disgust me was not only how the father treated his children in such an unfair and undignified way, but also at the way he spoiled and pampered his elder son. Even if the elder son is his favourite kid, does this mean he could hurt his other son’s feelings that way?

I was completely stupefied to see that the elder brother ‘s reaction to all of these. He laughed at his younger brother’s predicament and wore this smug and satisfied smirk as he’s gotten what he wanted in the first place-which I suspect not only the chicken, but to see his younger brother being shouted at by their father.

Frankly speaking, if I was the mother of the elder boy, I would have slapped him across the face  or give him a piece of my mind for being such a glutton. What else could you do to instill manner in a spoil rotten child who have his bowl full of dishes and still want to take away a measly piece of chicken in his younger brother’s bowl? The boy needs to be taught some manners. But it’s not only manners that the elder boy lack. He also need to be taught on how he should conduct himself with his siblings and be a brother to them instead of only being his father’s pet.

I was practically fuming when I watched the little boy sighed, and in a defeated manner, he reached for some veggies and swallowed the food halfheartedly while watching his brother and sister devoured their food in enjoyment. I do not doubt that the food was tasteless on the younger boy’s tongue.

I was hit hard on the head then, to realize that this is probably a common scene in most families. What’s worst, what I saw today was probably only a little glimpse of what most children who are in raised in big families are forced to endure every single day during their growing up process.

They’re treated unfairly and was ignored all the time because their siblings overshadowed them in many ways and things are never easy for them. Whatever they do were not appreciated as in their parents’ eyes, and they are always useless, stupid, whiny, bratty and ungrateful. They’re always shoved in a small corner as their siblings were put in the spotlight. Sometimes, the parents do not even see the child’s achievement or helpfulness as their favourite are constantly bragging about their contribution and take credit for what their brother or sister has done.

The children who were ignored and lack of love grew up to have rebellious streak and lack respect and love for their parents. They grew up having bitter feelings towards their parents. And they are often misunderstood as the parents refuse to pay even slightest attention to them or spend time with them.

What’s worst, not much thing change when the children grows up. Some parents tend to dote on certain daughters or sons just because one earn more than the other, or one gives more monetary contribution than the other. In worst case scenario, these children’s achievement and success will also be compared with immediate family members of their age, like cousins, or even in laws, not only in private, but in public as well.

I could never stand seeing that, period. I condemned this kind of parents to hell. As a parent, how could you treat your children so differently and love one child and shower him or her with love and attention more than the other? The child that you claim to have flaws and useless is your flesh and blood. Why can’t you treat all of your children as if they are a part of  you instead of some stray puppy you’re forced to shelter in your home?

Cleffairy: Sometimes, just sometimes, I could understand why some children claim that whether their parent(s) are still alive or not makes no difference to them, and they wouldn’t even care if their parent(s) is claimed by Death the very next hour in their life.

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