You know what a two-for is, don’t you? You buy one, get one for free. When you marry your sweetheart, you actually get more than just one free. You get an entire additional family. What a bargain!

“Marry the man, marry the family.”

But the marriage math doesn’t end there. “And the two shall become one flesh. Since they are no longer two, but one” (Mark 10:8 NIV). Do the Math Awareness people have that one figured out? I doubt it.

God planned this unique mathematical equation: 1+1=1. If it sounds impossible, it’s not. But it’s not simple, either.

God knew it wouldn’t be easy for us to set aside our “me first” human nature and put things in biblical order. God expects to be first, and wants our spouse to be next in priority. Romans 12 reminds us, “in honor give preference to one another.” That puts me in spot number three in my life, running contrary to my selfish nature. But if I prefer my husband and he prefers me, we are each well cared for and the relationship is in order as together we submit to God. But if I get just one item out of order—my job, or friends, even my kid—the math equation begins to come apart.

The good news is that God is there when we forget how to add it up. And since He created marriage, He has provided the manual on how to care for it and how to repair it when needed.

So go to the author of the instruction manual on marriage. The one who believed it possible, if not easy, to create one from two. “Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together” (Matthew 19:6). Although this sounds like a warning against outside influences, it’s also a reminder to couples that even we do not have God’s approval to blow up our marriages when things get tough.

Cleffairy: Marriage. Crazy math. Questions? Go to the great mathematician. He’s got it solved.

A friend from my past called me up to catch up with me last Sunday. It’s really nice to talk about the long gone good old times and our visions about the future as the clock ticks tock away.

The guy is a guy best friend. My relationship with him is of course, completely platonic. We practically grew up together and don’t always agrees with each other’s opinion and I still can’t forgive him for laughing at me instead of helping me up when I fell into the muddy paddy field when we were kids.

As of late, he wasn’t really happy at work as his new employer have restricted policy where Internet usage is concerned, something that I take for granted as I never have such problems, considering I am my own boss. Apparently this friend of mine is pretty unhappy about not being able to access various social networking sites while at work, and his employer even have this backward policy where they discourage involvment in the social media world.

Now, I don’t know what the general public’s opinion in regards to using office Internet for personal reasons, but for me, as long as my employee can perform, I would not even care if they’re to masquerade as a Pay Per View adult performer online.

I believed in treating adults like adults, and I won’t care about what personal things employees decided to put up on the Internet. There should be no draconian, moralistic guidelines attempting to govern  workers’ private lives. So long as it wasn’t work-related, and didn’t impact negatively on the business, it should not matter.

To me, should people stumbled across whatever personal jokes that has been posted online by an individual;  I’d probably pass them as human, with senses of humour instead of taking offence.

Cleffairy: Still living in a backward country, aren’t we?

Those who knows me personally would know that I’ve been having a long term affair with the Man of Steel. Yups it’s an open secret that I’ve been having an affair with Clark Kent a.k.a Superman. I wrote about him countless of times. You can even read my love letter to him HERE. It was written a few years back. There are a few more entries on the last child of Krypton, but I’m just too lazy to make a dig on those old posts. You may use the search bar to on the top right if you’re interested to know how much I love Superman. LOL. ( Though I kinda hate the new incarnation of Superman in Man of Steel. The Reboot is kinda awful to me)

Neway, I stumbled upon these when I was walking around with my son in the supermarket the other day.

Man of Steel’s bed set, consisting of bedsheets, pillowcase and comforter.

Wow, I got to say, the House of El’s family crest is pretty cool here.

And Superman is awesome on the sheets too.

I definitely won’t mind sleeping with Superman. A possible cure for my insomnia, I reckon. Now, I wonder if I could get these for my birthday? *AHEM AHEM*

Cleffairy: “Take it from me, living without love is not really living. It’s just sort of… existing.” – Smallville

Are you a credit card user? I’m sure most of you here are credit card users. Credit cards, used correctly definitely serves as a great financial convenience and not to mention, spending freedom. Swipe your cards wisely during sales and whatnot will also give you great value to your money.

There are plenty of financial institution out there who are offering all sorts of credit cards and each of them comes with different kinds of benefit. So how exactly do we choose the right cards that suits our lifestyle and spending needs? You can go on a bank hopping spree and ask each financial advisors about the cards that they offering, but that’s quite a hassle and time-consuming of course. There’s an easier way to make comparison before you make the commitment.

You can hop over to iMoney.my,  the new Malaysian site about consumer finance. iMoney.my provides free tools to compare credit cards, car loans, mortgages and many more. It’s trustworthy, FREE to use and always up to date. Most major financial institution in Malaysia are affiliated with it.

iMoney.my website have a real clean outlook and user friendly. Navigation is really easy and pretty straight forward.

With hundreds of credit cards in the market, choosing the right one can be very hard. But with their credit card comparison tool, you can make all the comparison online. Isn’t it great? You don’t have to go around asking financial advisors about the cards that they are offering and the qualification limit and whatnot.

With this website, you not only can make comparison online, but you can also apply your choice of credit cards online. Once you’ve made your choice, click “Apply Now” to begin the application process. Pretty convenient, huh? I say it’s pretty convenient and cost-effective. Beats the hassle of going the bank to line up and wait for your turn and whatnot.

I think iMoney.my is really great as it allows you to compare credit cards, car loans, mortgages in just one place. Saves a lot of time and not to mention headache.

If you’re looking forward to sign up for credit cards or apply car loans and whatnot, I highly recommend you to check this out. It will definitely be a great help to you.

Being a mum is never an easy feat, unless you’re talking about just giving birth and dumping your kids to some hired nanny or maid to take care of your kids until they’re fully ‘house-trained’. Now, that’s another story altogether. I know plenty of rich madams who did that and merely functioned as their kid’s ATM machine.

Being a mother is a walk in the park. Yes, indeed. A park with dinosaurs, that is. You’ll never know what will chomp you down for dinner. Okay, I’m kidding. It is not easy being a mum, what more a mum to special needs kids. I’m a mother to a special need myself, so I know how difficult life can be.

Today I’m featuring an interview with a very special mum, Erina Law. She is a mum to an autistic child, Delwin Cheah who is also a well-known savant artist. Read on and be inspired. 😀

Me:  You son is an autistic child. What was your initial reaction when you first discovered that he’s diagnosed with autism? And how do you respond to it, in terms of intervention?

Erina: I’m just like other parents where I felt lost. Not very sure about it. I cried and asking myself why it had to be me and Delwin. But, I’m a person who is on the positive thinking. I have to face the fact. My hubby is a person who don’t just listen to things just like that. He google, asking people and buy books to read.

Me: The society at large can be rather cruel when it comes to autistic children as generally speaking, not many knows what is autism and things that comes with it. More often than not, parents are condemned for bad parenting skills when their children behaves they way they do. Do you have any advise for parents with autistic children on how they can deal with the public’s misconception?

Erina: Autistic child are different from child with bad parenting. Autistic child – most of the time they are in their very own world.  Autistic child won’t answer back if they are scolded. They just don’t bother what you talk to them. Some had bad motor skill so they might be messy during eating so, is this one of the bad parenting skill they refer to? If an autistic child is talking and laughing to himself is it another bad parenting? At times when Delwin accidentally step on someone, I will apologize to the person and ask him to say sorry to. Immediately, they can’t say that we have bad parenting skill, right? We as parents did teach our kids. Anyway, we can’t please everyone.

Me: A lot of parents with autistic children are embarrassed with their children’s behaviour that they ended up locking themselves up at home. Any advise for parents who have low self-confidence in regards to this?

Erina: The child – we produce that product. How can a creator be embarrass with their own product? The more you lock yourself and the child at home, it only make things worst. As parents, we must have confident. Be brave, take the child out to explore and give him a chance.  Buy books to find out more. With today technology, Google about things that you wish to find out more. Then, ask around if anyone could give you some advice.
Me: Your son is a well-known savant artists. How did you discover his talent?

Erina: We discover his talent without realizing it. He started to draw at the age of 3+.  We didn’t stop him from there. We allow and encourage him to continue because we realize he enjoye it so much. We used art as one of a way to teach and communicate to him. As years go by, his skill had improve so much where friends, teachers and artists whom we know asked us to look into this matter seriously. From here, Lawrence went to find out more about art. What we do is continue to give him our full support.

Me:  How did you brush up his talent once you discovered that he’s a wonderful  artist? Any special classes that he went to?
Erina: Delwin didn’t go to any art classes. No formal training. We don’t brush him but we encourage him by allowing him to do what he loves to do. Everyone has their own favourite hobby or things they love to do. We enjoy seeing him draw.

Me: How do you get your son inspired for his masterpiece?
Erina:  We didn’t inspire him in his masterpiece. He is the one that make us look things differently from his art. You see different things from every different corners.

Me: Do you have any of his work that you’d like to share with us over here?

Pic: One of Delwin’s work

Another cute masterpiece by Delwin Cheah

A Ghostly take by Delwin

Me: Does he have a website? And if yes, could you re-direct us to his website, please?

Erina: Nope, I have yet to start an official website for him

Me: Are there any future plans on exhibition that we can look forward to?

Erina: Delwin had his  First Solo Exhibition  3 months ago and we are yet to have any plan for his next exhibition.
Me:  And last but not least, any inspiring and encouraging words you’d like to share with the readers over here? Perhaps they could benefit from it, especially parents with special needs children out there.

Erina: Every child are different. Different from their point of view, different talent, different behavior and many other things. Most important, do not force the child to do what we parents love to do. Everyone have got their own passion. Help the child to build their dream. Don’t just say it that you will do it but start doing it now. Spend quality time with the child and find out their talents. Sometimes, their talents will indirectly help them in changing. Delwin also play drum apart from drawing. By playing drum, he has improve his motor skill. No one know the child better than their own parents. Husband and wife should work together to help the child. I’m very lucky because my husband had been doing a great job as a father. He Google to find out more things, buy books to read to understand better and speak to physiatrist friends to have a better pictures. Then, both of us will discuss. My duty, to coach Delwin in his study and train him accordingly. I am a person who believe very much in training. By training a kid, it will help them. Finally, do not give up. As parents, we are their most important pillars. If we fall, imagine what will happen to them? Trust on your child capability. Trust what they can do. Trust them, encourage them, train them them – help them to make their dream come true!  Please bear in mind one important thing – ALL CHILD ARE DIFFERENT